I’ve been meaning to write this post for sometime. When I started to think about what I wanted my 2018 resolutions to be I also thought about bad habits and things I wanted to do less often in 2018 and BAM! a blog post idea. Almost a reverse resolution type thing. Cute, eh?
So yeah, I’m not writing this from that standpoint of like some awesome life coach that has her shit together 24/7. These are most definitely four things I will be actively working on doing less often because homegirl is human and will screw up occasionally.
4 Things You Should Do Less Often in 2018
Stress about things you cannot change
One of my goals for 2018 is to stop worrying about the shit that I cannot change. Yeah, yeah… easier said than done, I know. But hear me out…
A while ago, when Evan and I were watching Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them (yes you have my permission to think/know that I am a nerd. Bring it. Zero fucks given.) there was a scene where the main character, played by Eddy Redmayne, said something along the lines of, when you worry, you suffer twice.
This particular quote really hit me and I was all like YES that’s so fucking true and Evan was all like umm yeah… while secretly thinking wtf is she drinking paint thinner or something.
But seriously, think about the situations in your life you worry about. You’re worried about the bill you paid late, whether or not that piece of cake is going to make you fat, will you make enough money this week to pay your rent, if your friends are talking shit about you behind your back, if that guy is going to text you back etc.
Here’s the thing: you cannot change the outcome of any of these situations by simply worrying. In fact, worrying will probably make you feel absolutely worse about them. And I don’t know about you, but I’m not about that life. That red, worried blotchiness… it just doesn’t fit my complexion, ya dig?
So what should I do instead, you ask. I propose two options, 1) take action to make yourself feel better or 2) find a way to occupy your mind and time to forget about said worries.
Example: You paid a bill late. Instead of worrying yourself sick, just pay the bill and set up auto pay or a reminder system to ensure it doesn’t happen again.
You’re worried that guy won’t text you back? Call some girlfriends up for a girls day to keep your mind busy until he does. If he doesn’t, you don’t want that kind of guy anyway.
I’ve been telling myself all day I needed to whip up a blog post for today because I have been an absolute shit at getting posts out regularly. Considering I made one of my 2018 resolutions to be better at posting, I definitely need to work on getting my shit together.
And here I am… 7pm Sunday evening writing this post on my phone while hubs drives us to our fav ice cream joint. And it’s not like I’ve been jam-packed with pressing events all day. Other than working out, the majority of my day was spent in sweatpants on the couch, fading in and out of a nap. I’m such a catch, ain’t I?
Note: the fact that we wait til 7pm to get ice cream is not procrastinating… our fav girl, the one that gives the big overflowing scoops, doesn’t get to work til 4 or 5 on Sundays. She’s a gem and a hero all wrapped in one.
Procrastination is obvz something that runs deep in my veins. Growing up, my parents had to assist with many last-minute science projects and cram sessions for important tests. I always used the excuse that I worked best under pressure and they were always like but hun, it takes more than 12 hours to grow bacteria in a petri dish. Oops.
Truth is though, procrastination is like masturbation. It feels good until you realize you’ve screwed yourself. And unless you are one of those people who are just habitually lucky (spoiler: not me)… procrastination almost always screws you.
New plan: don’t procrastinate. I’m going to use my planner that I use for my salon clients to make actual obtainable goals and (here’s the kicker) MAKE AN EFFORT TO DO THEM. Because seriously, who doesn’t feel like a low-key Wonder Woman when all the boxes on a to-do list are checked off. Like hell yeah girl, I got the laundry done, wrote a blog post AND made it to the gym.
If I’m feeling a little froggy, I may reward myself for being so Johnny-on-the-spot but we’ll see.
Ignore the details
I could have also labeled this BE LAZY, but details sounds so much more sexy and upbeat, don’ it? There is so much truth to that saying ‘It’s all in the details.”
We all have those times where we are like fuck it, I’m wearing my chewed up Uggs because comfort and I’ll look homeless because it’s easy but really, I’m not doing myself any favors, unless my goal was to collect a few extra bucks from passersby that think I’m actually, indeed, homeless. Nah, mate… just eating my lunch on a park bench.
When I decide I’m too lazy to pay attention to the details of how I look, I notice that my mood is affected. When I take the time to look nice, wear some jewelry and maybe some lipstick, I feel like some everyday goddess and the confidence is plentiful.
There are extra details in every single aspect of our lives, even our work and our homes. When I cut corners in my work or even cleaning my house, I’m never fully satisfied. So why do I do it? Because it’s easy? Easy is for pussies. I’m a goddess.
Taking those extra few minutes to pay attention to the extra little details are what is going to set you a part from the rest. It will take you from ordinary to extraordinary.
What is my master plan for OPERATION: Don’t be a lazy bum? Pay attention to the details. Duh. Take the extra effort to dress myself to look as good as I feel. Pay attention to all the finer details at work (as a hairstylist and nail tech, there are TONS of ways to cut corners) so that my work is nothing shy of excellent and my clients are happy and happily refer me. Take my time and go the extra mile when doing things at home like cooking, cleaning and decorating so that I can feel fully satisfied with the home I’m living in.
Think and act negatively
Negativity is fairly powerful and it seems to be one of those things that can easily poison an entire day, week and next thing you know you have become a walking, talking Negative Nancy and your friends are all like don’t invite her she will just piss on all the fun.
It can be vicious cycle and really tough to get out of that poor me, everything sucks attitude but I’ll tell you this: a negative attitude is doing absolutely nothing positive for you. Meaning, you can’t expect positive and happy things to come your way because chances are you will probably find the negative aspects of those things too.
Being a negative person gives you no advantage in this world.
Unless you actually enjoy the negativity (and yes, some people are addicted to it), there is no reason you should continue living your life with a dark cloud following you around.
Positivity and optimism are contagious and attractive to others. When something seemingly negative happens to you, find the positive aspect, the silver lining, and focus on that. Next thing you know, that negative event is no big deal and hasn’t effected your day or your attitude.